Episode
241. why you feel RESENTFUL (& how to stop)
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- she persisted
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- Dec 5, 2025
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- 1436
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#241 đż watch on spotify & youtube đ ask me a question or leave feedback on the podcast! hereâs the truth: you cannot resent someone for a need youâve never communicated. but most of our day-to-day frustration comes from exactly that â unspoken expectations, misunderstood triggers, and assumptions we never check. in this solo episode, i walk you through the exact rule, mindset shifts, and dbt skills i use to prevent resentment from silently wrecking relationships â with friends, partners, siblings, coworkers, anyone. by the end, youâll know how to say what you need clearly, kindly, and confidently⌠without guilt, without drama, and without letting resentment build in the background. i talk about: ⢠the âresentment ruleâ that completely shifts your relationships ⢠why gen z is great at identifying triggers but avoids voicing needs ⢠how resentment grows from assumptions â and how to stop it ⢠how to actually use dbtâs dearman to make a clear request ⢠why your ask must always have a yes/no answer ⢠how to identify the real issue underneath irritation or hurt ⢠the dbt check the facts skill and why it prevents so much unnecessary conflict ⢠how to talk about needs without being passive-aggressive or avoidant ⢠the fast skill for communicating boundaries without losing self-respect ⢠how to stop people-pleasing while still protecting the relationship ⢠exactly how to phrase a specific, doable change someone can make ⢠when naming a trigger âtames itâ⌠and when you actually need something to change mentioned: ⢠dbt interpersonal effectiveness worksheets âgiveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter: 1. leave a review on apple or spotify 2. dm me a screenshot on instagram đ˛ bonus entries for story or tiktok tags! @shepersistedpâŚ