Episode
Episode 423 - The Weight Men Carry Into the Bedroom
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- Sex for Saints
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- May 29, 2026
- Duration seconds
- 1276
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Summary
What happens when a man spends his whole life believing his desire could hurt someone? In this episode, I will explore how religious and cultural messages about male sexuality can lead men to disconnect from their own desire, constantly monitor themselves during sex, and quietly seek validation from their wives without even realizing it. I'll talk about how this pattern shows up differently in marriage, why it often creates pressure and disconnection for both spouses, and what actually helps men become more present and connected. I'll also share how wives can support without taking responsibility for fixing it, and what changes when men finally learn that their desire was never the problem in the first place.