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Episode 83 Voluntary vs. Involuntary Suffering: Choosing How You Carry the Hard
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- Running to Myself
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- Mar 30, 2026
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- 766
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Summary
Voluntary vs. Involuntary Suffering: Choosing How You Carry the Hard Life will hand you pain. But suffering? Some of it is optional. In this honest and grounded episode, Trisha shares a recent conversation that stopped her in her tracks: “You’re so emotionally healthy.” At a time when she felt tired and stretched thin, that comment sparked a deeper reflection on what has actually changed over the years. The hard hasn’t disappeared. The challenges haven’t magically resolved. But something is different. The difference? Understanding the distinction between involuntary suffering and voluntary suffering . In this episode, you’ll learn: What involuntary suffering really is (and why it doesn’t mean you’re failing at life) • How voluntary suffering quietly multiplies your pain • The role mindset tools play in reducing unnecessary emotional spirals • Why separating facts from thoughts changes everything • The powerful “garden” lesson from a wise mentor about living in the middle of the storm • How voluntary effort crowds out voluntary despair • Three practical ways to reduce unnecessary suffering starting today Trisha shares personal reflections on walking through ongoing, real-life hardship while still choosing to participate fully in her own life. This conversation is not about minimizing grief or pretending things are fine. It’s about anchoring yourself in agency even when circumstances feel heavy. If you’ve ever thought: “This shouldn’t be happening.” “This will never change.” “I can’t handle this.” This episode will gently help you separate what you must carry from what you’re unintentionally piling on top. Emotional health isn’t the absence of pain. It’s the presence of agency. You can grieve and plant. You can hurt and still build. You can feel the hard — and still live…