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AITA: Should My Parents Control My Bank Account as an Adult? Ep 113
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- Apr 30, 2026
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Summary
Am I the asshole for wanting financial privacy? Sherry and Val break down this Reddit AITA story and explore the gray area between parental concern and financial control. Yes, technically you're an adult. But mom's probably coming from a place of wanting to help, even if it's rolling out in the worst possible way. We talk about why going through transactions line by line creates shame and resentment instead of trust, how to have the boundary conversation without yelling, and why mom might be dealing with her own money trauma or insecurity. This episode covers setting firm financial boundaries while living at home, why mom might be freaking out about your spending even when you're doing fine, the secret bank account strategy if things get really bad, and how to shift the conversation from berating to support. We also dig into why this kind of control accelerates the timeline for moving out and damages the relationship long term. Not the asshole. But both sides need to talk about why this is happening and what boundaries look like going forward. Connect with us:Book a free call with Val (financial planner): https://calendly.com/valerie-stratford Book a free call with Sherry (financial coach): https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=17480698&appointmentType=25737393 Val's Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/you.me.and.money Sherry's Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/moneymindsetfc Podcast Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/mind.money.adhd.podcast Sherry's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moneymindsetcoaching