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Alison Armstrong: Why Chemistry Isn’t Enough In Relationships: The Truth About Attraction, Sex And Lasting Love | EP 73
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- Mar 17, 2026
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Summary
Alison Armstrong is back for her third round on Heart of Man , and it continues to be a real honor to learn from this woman whose work has deeply shaped the way I understand men, women, partnership, and the often hidden dynamics that govern our relationships. For those who may not yet know her, Alison has been teaching and speaking about men, women, human behavior, and relationships for over three decades. Through her seminars, books, online programs, and media contributions, she has given millions of people access to more fulfilling lives, loving relationships, stronger families, and more productive organizations. In our first conversation, we explored a man’s relationship to shame... In the second, we explored the stages of development within a man... And in this third dialogue, we turn toward one of the most charged and important territories of all: how men and women come together in romantic partnership, and what happens when sexuality, protection, and provision enter the field... At the heart of this conversation is Alison’s framing of our instinctual responses, not simply as procreate, protect, and provide, but more accurately as procreate first, then protect, then provide. From there, we begin to unpack what tends to happen when chemistry leads the way, when sexuality is used to meet deeper unmet needs, and why so many people end up bringing out the worst in one another while actually longing for love, safety, connection, and partnership. In this episode, discover: Why attraction and sexual chemistry can quickly derail connection in the early stages of dating How sex is often used to meet deeper needs for love, safety, and connection Why you should not have sex with someone if you cannot clearly communicate your needs and boundaries How leading with chemistry ca…