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How to Be More Loving to Yourself to Break the OCD Cycle
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- Jun 16, 2026
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Summary
If you've been struggling with OCD or anxiety for a long time and feel like nothing is working, this episode may reveal why. Matt Codde, LCSW explains why self-rejection is one of the most overlooked barriers to healing, and how learning to be more loving toward yourself is not a self-help cliche, but a clinical cornerstone of lasting OCD recovery. This episode applies to anyone dealing with OCD, anxiety, chronic pain, or any pattern of internal resistance. Whether you are in active ERP therapy or just beginning to understand your OCD cycle, the message here is one that most people have never heard in quite this way. If you have spent years trying to eliminate thoughts, manage anxiety, or "get better" before giving yourself permission to rest, recover, or even feel okay, this one is for you. Matt walks through the specific ways people with OCD are unloving to themselves without realizing it, and what the path toward integration and true healing actually looks like 🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode ✅ Understand why self-rejection silently blocks OCD and anxiety healing, even when you are doing everything "right" ✅ Learn how the OCD cycle is rooted in resistance to normal human experiences, not the experiences themselves ✅ See why trying to heal so you can love yourself is the one mindset that guarantees the cycle continues ✅ Understand Carl Jung's concept of shadow integration and why acknowledging all parts of yourself is essential for recovery ✅ Learn how pride, isolation, and the "I can fix this myself" pattern are actually forms of self-rejection ✅ See how investing in yourself, seeking guidance, and treating yourself like a best friend are acts of healing, not weakness ✅ Understand why love is the ultimate healing field and what it a…