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E315: You Are Not the Problem: Healing Childhood Trauma, Nervous System Regulation & Breaking Survival Patterns with Lori Montry
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- Adult Child of Dysfunction
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- May 17, 2026
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- 2312
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Summary
In this deeply healing episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy sits down with Lori Montre, trauma-informed coach, former corporate lawyer, and author of You’re Not the Problem, for a powerful conversation about childhood trauma, nervous system regulation, emotional eating, people-pleasing, hypervigilance, and healing the patterns that keep us stuck. Lori shares her personal story of surviving childhood sexual abuse, growing up feeling like a burden, and turning to food as emotional comfort and protection. Together, Tammy and Lori unpack how trauma — whether “big T” or “little t” — shapes the way we see ourselves, the world, and relationships. They discuss why understanding your patterns logically is not enough, and why healing must start in the body before lasting change can happen. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why nervous system regulation must come before mindset work • How childhood dysfunction creates survival patterns like people-pleasing, anxiety, overthinking, and emotional eating • Why trauma changes the stories we tell ourselves about worthiness and safety • How to stop scanning for danger and begin rewiring your brain for safety • The difference between calming your nervous system and actually processing stored stress and emotions • Practical body-based tools to reconnect with yourself and feel safer in your body • Why healing isn’t about “fixing yourself” — because you were never the problem to begin with. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I still struggle even though I know better?” this episode will help you understand the deeper roots of your patterns and remind you that healing is possible. You are not broken. You adapted to survive. And what was learned can be unlearned. Connect with Lori Website: www.LoriMontry.com Youtube: Lori Montry -Somatic…