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E 366: Tammys Takes #43: Healing Isn't A Race
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- Adult Child of Dysfunction
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- Sep 2, 2026
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Summary
Have you ever listened to a podcast, read a book, or had a conversation that unexpectedly left you feeling anxious, emotional, or overwhelmed? Maybe your first thought was, "Why am I still getting triggered?" or "Shouldn't I be further along by now?" If so, this week's Tammy's Takes is for you. Inspired by my conversation with Rachel, I wanted to remind you of something we often forget: healing isn't a competition, and your nervous system sets the pace. Every person's journey is different, and comparing your healing to someone else's only creates more pressure, shame, and self-judgment. In this episode, I share one of my favorite tools that I teach coaching clients: Notice. Name. Need. Instead of criticizing yourself for having a strong emotional reaction, you'll learn how to become curious about what your body is trying to communicate. We'll explore why healing isn't just an intellectual process, why your nervous system responds before your mind can explain what's happening, and how listening to yourself instead of pushing yourself is one of the greatest acts of self-trust. Most adult children grew up learning to ignore their own needs while focusing on everyone else's. Healing asks us to reverse that pattern—not by forcing ourselves to process everything at once, but by learning to pause, notice what's happening inside of us, and respond with compassion instead of criticism. If you've ever felt like you're falling behind in your healing journey, I hope this episode reminds you that you are not behind. You're exactly where you need to be. Healing doesn't happen by rushing through your pain. It happens one safe moment, one small act of self-awareness, and one compassionate choice at a time. If you're ready to continue your healing journey, I'd love to invite you to exp…