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E 364: Tammys Takes #42: Trauma Isn't the Event—It's the Aftermathaudio
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- Adult Child of Dysfunction
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- Aug 28, 2026
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- 627
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Summary
Have you ever caught yourself wondering, "Was my childhood really that bad?" Maybe you've compared your experiences to others and convinced yourself that because someone else had it worse, your struggles today shouldn't matter. But what if that's the wrong question? In this week's Tammy's Takes , I'm reflecting on one of the most powerful moments from my conversation with trauma specialist Stacey Uhrig, who said, "Trauma isn't the event... it's the aftermath. It's the impact of what happened." That simple statement led me to ask a different question—one I ask nearly every coaching client I work with: Is it still affecting the way you live today? In this episode, I'll walk you through a simple but powerful coaching exercise to help you uncover the beliefs that may have formed during childhood and quietly shaped the way you see yourself today. Together, we'll explore how experiences from years ago can continue to influence your relationships, boundaries, confidence, people-pleasing, perfectionism, anxiety, and even your nervous system. Healing isn't about deciding whether your story was "bad enough." It's about understanding the meaning your younger self attached to those experiences and recognizing that the survival patterns that once protected you don't have to define your future. If you've ever struggled with feeling like you're not enough, believing you have to earn love, or constantly putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own, this episode will help you connect the dots with compassion instead of judgment. Because when you understand why your behavior makes sense, you can finally begin to change it. I actually think this is the "voice" we want for Tammy's Takes going forward. The guest episodes are about the conversation. The Tammy's Takes summaries should fee…