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13. At Least Dad Did a Load of Washing... Her 9-Year-Old Said It Mid-Fight. That Was the Bar.

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ADHD Mums
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Jul 6, 2026
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Summary

Have you ever made a deal with yourself at the end of a really bad week — that's it, I'm not doing it anymore, I'm only doing what he does — and then washed up three times by Tuesday without noticing? Have you ever bought him something mid-fight when you were supposed to be on strike? Have you ever lost it because your nine-year-old defended his dad by pointing out he did one load of washing, as if that was the bar? I couldn't stop thinking about a listener who did all three in one week. I texted a friend about her. I went for coffee and talked about her. I followed up to find out what happened. What she said next, I genuinely did not see coming. What we cover Have you ever declared you're done, you're not doing it anymore, and then found yourself doing it anyway — and genuinely not noticed until it was done The thing your body does mid-fight that looks like making up but isn't — and why it fires even when you're the one who's angry Why your hands win the war three times before lunch — and the one-second move that interrupts it Why the guilt fires when you stop, not when you're drowning — and what guilt is actually doing in your house What your daughter learns watching a 40-year trained adult put something down — no speech needed The slam tour — passive-aggressive cleaning, the self-cleaning oven moment, and what we're really hoping he'll see Why your body won't sleep even when everything is fine — and the scientific name for it The question to ask yourself the next time your hands move before your brain does: am I doing this because I want to, or am I scared of what'll happen if I don't Free resources Household Family Meeting Template — https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adhd-household-family-meeting-template/ Energy Accounting Guide — https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adh…