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Criticism: When Needs Turn Into Attacks
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- Apr 10, 2026
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Summary
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores Criticism: When Needs Turn Into Attacks, one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, and how it can quietly erode connection in relationships. We break down how criticism often masks deeper unmet needs, why it shows up as blame instead of vulnerability, and how shifting from attack to honest expression can completely change the way we’re heard, understood, and connected. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links --https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpchttps://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgohttps://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/