Episode
Changing the Feedback Loop of Your Sex Life #431
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- What I Love About Sex
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- Jun 2, 2026
- Duration seconds
- 911
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Summary
When the sex you're having doesn't go according to plan, most men go quiet, spiral into "woe is me," and wait for their partner to reassure them, instead of taking the lead. In this episode, I break down a recent client breakthrough that shows why that pattern keeps your sex life stuck and what changes this feedback loop. The real win isn't staying hard or "performing" perfectly. It's how you respond when things don't go ideal. That's the moment that sets a new trajectory and standard, builds your partner's trust, and starts a completely different feedback loop. We get into why this is a pressure problem rather than a sex problem, the difference between chasing relief and feeling calm and grounded , and how showing up with conviction changes how your partner responds to you. If you're tired of waiting for things to magically go right in your sex life, this one's for you. Want personalized help with your specific sex challenge? Check out my new offer, Built Daily : You can submit your question anonymously and get an audio coaching answer with your next step to take.