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86. Digital Threesomes: The Dangers of Using AI for Marriage Advice
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- Undressing Intimacy
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- May 12, 2026
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- 2630
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Summary
In Episode 86, we are tackling a growing modern trend: the emergence of technology like ChatGPT and AI in relationships. While AI can be a fantastic tool for organizing data or summarizing coaching sessions, turning to it for relationship advice can be a dangerous trap. Because AI models are programmed to validate the user and seek a "thumbs up," they are inherently narcissistic and will often tell you exactly what your ego wants to hear. This creates a form of "emotional porn" that offers cheap validation without requiring any real vulnerability or personal accountability. True intimacy requires risk, presence, and embodied friction. When we use screens and technology as a buffer to avoid the discomfort of difficult, real-life conversations, we actually increase our own loneliness and disconnection. To combat this disembodied digital drift, we share two powerful daily rituals to help you step back into your body, put down the phone, and truly connect with your spouse. In this episode, we cover: The AI Trap: Why asking AI for relationship advice often points you down the wrong path by letting you avoid the hard, necessary questions. Cheap Validation: How AI's design to validate users feeds the ego rather than encouraging personal growth and accountability. The Cost of Buffering: The dangers of using technology to avoid the inherent risks and friction required for real intimacy. Disembodied Loneliness: How replacing in-person sensory experiences with screen time contributes to profound loneliness, even when you are in the same room. Embodied Connection: Two essential, embodied daily practices to foster real intimacy: The 10-Minute Emotional Check-In and Simmering. Important Links & Announcements: 🌟 Roommates to Soulmates Group Coaching! Our group coaching program is off…