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8: Shared Calendars in Co-Parenting: The Control Tactic Nobody Talks About
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- The Ugly Truth of Divorce
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- Mar 3, 2026
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- 1086
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Summary
Alright, let's talk about shared parenting calendars. Your lawyer probably told you to use one. The mediator swears by them. Every co-parenting app has the feature built right in. Sounds reasonable, right? Wrong. If you're dealing with a high-conflict co-parent, that shared calendar is about to become a weapon against you. And I'm here to tell you exactly why I'll never agree to one. Here's the thing nobody's saying out loud: shared calendars aren't about organization—they're about control. They're about surveillance. They're about making you responsible for managing another grown adult's life while you're already drowning as a single parent. In this episode, I break down the real problems with shared parenting calendars that lawyers, judges, and mediators won't tell you because most of them have never actually lived through high-conflict co-parenting. You'll hear about: Why needing a reminder about your own custody days is a massive red flag How "just doctor's appointments" turns into 128 baseball games you're expected to upload The difference between informing your co-parent (required) and managing their calendar (absolutely not your job) How high-conflict exes use shared calendars for surveillance and to know your every move Why one forgotten entry can get you accused of parental alienation The power struggles, the accusations, and why this creates MORE conflict, not less What attorneys really think about calendar drama (hint: cha-ching) Look, we're all adults here. If you can't remember when to pick up your kids without a digital reminder, we have bigger problems. I'm not your secretary. I'm not laying out your clothes for dinner. And I'm sure as hell not triple-tracking my life so you can stay organized. You want to participate in your kids' lives? Great. Write st…