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24: Stop Sitting There and Taking It: What to Actually Do in Mediation
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- The Ugly Truth of Divorce
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- Apr 28, 2026
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- 1544
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Summary
Your ex is about to call you a liar, a cheat, and an unfit parent in front of a mediator who isn't going to do a damn thing about it. And if you walk in unprepared, you will sit there for hours getting obliterated and agree to things you never should have agreed to just because you were exhausted and emotionally done. I've seen it too many times and it. makes. me. feral. Here's what nobody tells you: mediation with a narcissist is not designed to work in your favor. It's a $13 billion industry and some mediators will happily let your ex run their mouth for twelve hours while the clock ticks and your wallet bleeds. That is not an accident. That is by design. But I spent years as a mediator and I know exactly how to flip it. In this episode I cover why mediation almost always fails with a high-conflict person, what your ex's playbook looks like the second they walk in, why marathon sessions are a straight up cash grab, how to use the whole thing as an intel mission for your court case, and exactly when to get your ass up and leave. Mediation is a tool. It is not a prison sentence. And you are not required to sit there and take it. You are also not required to walk in without a plan, without a parenting plan already drafted, and without a time limit already set. The parents who win this thing are the ones who showed up prepared while their ex showed up with nothing but a bad attitude and a list of grievances. That is going to be you after you listen to this. Save this one. Play it before you walk into that building. I want my energy behind you when it's go time. Here’s What You Can Actually Take Away: Mediation Rarely Works With a Narcissist: Go in knowing that mediation with a high-conflict person probably won't produce a clean agreement, and that's okay because you can…