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22: Nesting: The Divorce Trend That Sounds Sweet but Stings Like Hell
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- The Ugly Truth of Divorce
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- Apr 21, 2026
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- 1253
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Summary
You're sleeping down the hall from the person who drained your bank account, put cameras in the living room, and told your kids god knows what, and your attorney is calling it a strategy. That's nesting. Let's talk about why it's bullshit. Here's what nobody tells you: nesting isn't just the long-term custody arrangement where the kids stay put and parents rotate in and out. It also includes that early disaster phase where neither of you has left yet, everyone's hiring attorneys, and you're still eating dinner three feet from the person you just told you want a divorce. Both versions count. Both versions are a lot. I get why people do it. The kids stay in their home, the routine stays intact, and it feels like you're protecting them from the worst of it. But what we're not asking is what it does to those kids to watch their parents quietly unravel under the same roof. We're looking at it through adult eyes and telling ourselves it's fine. It is not always fine. And the attorneys. God. Larry will tell you not to leave that house no matter what. Don't abandon the home, don't take the kids, just stay. Even after you told him last week it wasn't safe. Even after you told him things were getting scary. Stay anyway. I have a massive problem with that advice and I'm going to tell you exactly why. Here's the truth: nesting works for a very specific type of couple. The ones who still genuinely respect each other, aren't weaponizing anything, and are fully committed to keeping the kids out of it. Those people exist and I love that for them. But that is not most of you. And for the rest of you, especially anyone in a high-conflict situation, nesting is not a co-parenting strategy. It's a slow burn. Your kids don't need the childhood home. They need you to not be in a war zone. Tw…