Episode
215: They're Not Busy, They're Avoiding You
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- The Sabrina Zohar Show
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- Jul 17, 2026
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- 2115
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Summary
The disappearing. The suddenly busy. The phone that comes out the second eye contact gets real. In this episode of the nervous system series, Sabrina breaks down the flight response in dating and relationships: what's actually happening in the body when someone pulls back, why intimacy reads as danger, and why "I just need space" almost never has anything to do with space. Anxious and avoidant attachment both run this alarm, and we've spent years villainizing one and excusing the other instead of understanding either. Inside: why going cold after a great date isn't self-sabotage, how hyper independence and fear of vulnerability get wired in childhood, why situationships are often two flight responses agreeing not to scare each other, and the difference between an explanation and an excuse. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?" Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video. Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow …