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Episode 63: The Loneliness Nobody Talks About

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The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
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Jun 30, 2026
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Summary

Loneliness is one of the deepest secondary losses of grief—but it's often misunderstood. When most people hear the word loneliness, they think the answer is more people, more activity, or simply staying busy. But what if that's not the loneliness you're experiencing? In this episode, Jay shares the kind of loneliness that comes after losing a spouse—the loneliness of losing the person who knew your story, finished your sentences, remembered your history, and witnessed your life. Drawing from his own journey six and a half years after Christine's passing, Jay explores how loneliness isn't a lack of faith, why God never shames us for feeling lonely, and how His presence becomes our greatest comfort in places where no one else can follow. If you've ever felt lonely in the middle of a crowd, this conversation is for you. In this episode: • Why loneliness is different from simply being alone • The hidden loneliness of losing your "primary witness" • Why busyness isn't a cure for grief • How isolation quietly shapes our identity • Learning to surrender loneliness instead of fighting it • Finding God's presence in the places that hurt most "God is not afraid of our lonely places. He meets us there… reminding us that we are still known, still loved, and never forgotten." Find out more about me here: www.jaycookingham.com I’m on @buymeacoffee. If you like, even maybe love my podcast, you can buy me a coffee and support me. It’s a simple way of showing your support and helping me grow the podcast. Thank you! Here’s the link: buymeacoffee.com/jcdude56t Music by Paul Grimsland