Episode
Modern Dating is a DISASTER — Evolutionary Psychologist Geoffrey Miller Explains Why
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- The Illusion of Consensus
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- Dec 17, 2025
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- 4392
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Summary
Evolutionary psychologist Geoffrey Miller joins Rav on the Illusion of Consensus for a deep exploration of Gen Z’s crisis of sex, dating, and relationships, unpacking why modern courtship is failing and how evolutionary instincts still shape today’s mating market. Miller breaks down the rise of incel culture, the psychology of attraction, the impact of dating apps, and practical strategies young men can use to build confidence, social skills, and real-world romantic success. This conversation moves from societal trends to actionable insights on approaching women, navigating rejection, and understanding human mating psychology with clarity and honesty. A candid and highly informative session with Geoffrey Miller on how young people can thrive in a transformed romantic landscape.Follow Geoffrey on X: https://x.com/primalpoly Time-stamps: 00:00 – Intro 05:55 – Queer Identity + Gen Z’s Sexual Recession Unpacked 1 3:25 – Sapiosexuals and Social Categories 20:40 – What Intelligence Really Signals in Dating 27:55 – Phones, Isolation, and the Collapse of Social Skills 35:10 – Dating Apps and the New Mating Inequality 42:25 – How Rejection Creates Modern Incel Psychology 49:40 – Low-Stakes Flirting and Building Social Confidence 56:55 – Approaching Women Without Creeping Them Out 1:04:10 – Standards, Risk, and Smarter Short-Term Choices This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.illusionconsensus.com/subscribe