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45. EMDR and the Pity Party
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- The EMDR Doctor Podcast
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- Aug 29, 2025
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- 574
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Summary
This week, I wanted to talk about something that comes up a lot in therapy and in life: the way shame and self-pity get tangled together. So often, when we find ourselves feeling sorry for ourselves, shame quickly follows — telling us we’re weak, indulgent, or that we shouldn’t be feeling that way at all. But here’s the thing: self-pity is usually a sign that something inside us really needs care. And when we meet that place with compassion — real, genuine compassion — something powerful happens. Instead of staying stuck in fear, helplessness, or injustice, we can come out feeling nurtured, strengthened, and even loved. In this episode, I explore how compassion transforms the way we experience shame and self-pity, and why this shift matters so much for healing. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Compassion is not indulgence — it’s a healing force. Self-pity doesn’t mean weakness, it means something inside us needs tending. When we meet shame with compassion, we shift from helplessness to hope. Key Highlights: Why shame and self-pity are so closely linked How self-pity is often misunderstood, but actually signals a need for support. The transformative power of compassion in healing shame. How EMDR therapy creates space for new, kinder responses to suffering. Resources Mentioned: Dr. Lloyd’s Heal Your Past online EMDR program – Register at emdrdoctor.com.au/heal Research on PTSD treatments and why EMDR is faster and more effective than traditional talk therapy for trauma Contact and Feedback: Thinking about trying EMDR for PTSD? Reach out to Dr. Lloyd at emdrdoctor.com.au. Note: This podcast provides general information and is not a substitute for individual medical advice. Always consult your healthcare provider for personalised recommendations. S…