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Ep 29: Raising British Kids Across an Ocean, With Alton Byrd
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- The Dad Manual
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- Jul 14, 2026
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- 2879
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Summary
Alton Byrd grew up without a father, then raised two kids across an ocean while playing pro basketball in the UK. This one is about figuring it out with no manual. Alton joins Tony to talk about a fatherhood honestly. He's talks about the divorce, about the years he lived a plane ride away from his children, and about what he got wrong. What comes through is hard-won and simple: kids don't remember the stuff you buy them, they remember your time. What you'll take from this episode: Why "what they want is your time" is the lesson that took him longest to learn Parenting from a distance after a divorce, and owning your part in it Raising kids who are "very different" without comparing them Moving from parent-of-children to parent-of-adults, and letting them lead The three things he'd tell any father: listen, listen to what they aren't saying, and love them no matter what If you enjoyed The Dad Manual, leave us a rating on your podcast app! If you loved it, share this episode with a Dad! Send your questions to [email protected]. Connect with Tony Cooper: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetonycooper/ 00:00 Cold open: what they really want 00:29 Meet Alton Byrd 02:00 British kids and the name Miles 07:30 Did he always want to be a dad? 09:30 Growing up without a father 13:30 Traveling the world with a baby 17:40 Why kids talk about mom 22:40 Figuring out fatherhood alone 26:00 The divorce and owning his part 28:00 The hardest lesson: time over things 33:50 When your kids become adults 42:40 "You owe me nothing" 43:40 Advice for dads in transition