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Ep 16: What Your Kids Learn When You're Not Looking
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- The Dad Manual
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- Apr 14, 2026
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- 2139
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Summary
Your kids are watching everything you do — and learning from none of what you say. Henry Poole — creative entrepreneur, father of two grown sons, and one of the most thoughtful men Tony Cooper knows — sits down for a deep, honest conversation about what it really means to parent with intention. From discovering the emotion of anger in his 40s to forgiving his father in a therapist's office before his first son was even born, Henry's path to conscious fatherhood is unlike anything you've heard before. Key Takeaways: Kids learn from behavior, not words — if you tell them not to hit while hitting them, you've already lost the lesson Anger isn't a broken emotion — it's lightning, natural and necessary, and learning to express it honestly changed Henry's entire family dynamic Forgiving your own father before you become a father may be the single most powerful thing you can do Overcorrecting away from your parents' style can create its own set of problems — resilience requires some rough edges Coming from two very different cultural and religious backgrounds creates both conflict and extraordinary perspective The "strict father / nurturing mother" archetypes are deeper than we think — and when one partner shifts, the other often follows Seeing your child as frozen in a negative state of being actually generates that state — the way you see your child shapes who they become Unconditional love isn't just a feeling, it's a way of seeing — and it may be the most important gift a parent can give Being openly a work in progress in front of your kids gives them permission to be one too The goal isn't to raise perfect kids — it's to model the kind of growth they'll carry for the rest of their live If you enjoyed The Dad Manual, leave us a rating on your podcast app! If you loved it,…