Episode
Episode 426 - When He Stops Initiating
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- Sex for Saints
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- Jun 19, 2026
- Duration seconds
- 1109
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Summary
How do you reconnect with your spouse after so much distance that you're not even sure you want things to go back to the way they were? In this episode, I talk about what often happens when the higher desire partner stops initiating and why that silence can bring both relief and unexpected grief for women. I explore responsive desire, avoidance, emotional safety, and the complicated vulnerability of reaching back toward someone after months or years of disconnection. We also talk about what healthy initiation can actually look like, how to rebuild trust in small ways, and what to do if you're not even sure you want the sexual relationship to return at all. If you've ever felt stuck between wanting closeness and wanting to protect yourself, this episode will help you understand what may really be happening underneath it all.