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Episode 629: Wanting a wife (the secretary problem)
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- PsycHacks
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- Jun 8, 2026
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- 780
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Summary
Why are modern marriages breaking down? In this episode, I argue that one of the root causes is that both men and women are wanting a wife. The secretary problem reveals an enduring male preference: men will enter into relationships with women who help them. However, mismatched expectations around roles, reciprocity, and value exchange are frustrating the formation of relationships today. Join my community: https://the-captains-quarters.mn.co Buy my book, ”The Value of Others” Ebook: https://amzn.to/460uGrA Audiobook: https://amzn.to/3YfFwbx Paperback: https://amzn.to/3xQuIFK Buy my book, ”Starry Night” Ebook: https://amzn.to/4qJrh9U Audiobook: https://amzn.to/3LuUJRS Paperback: https://amzn.to/4sGcqOY Book a paid consultation: https://oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: https://oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@oriontaraban Facebook: https://facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: https://twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: https://oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion’s Theme: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrXBzQ2HDEQ Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world’s only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code ”PSYCH” for 10% off all membership plans: https://stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: https://stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: https://www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack’s member community: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXw/join Sound mixing/editing by: v…