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Losing Yourself Trying To Be The Perfect Wife: How Good Women Get Lost In The Wrong Roles
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- Nov 25, 2025
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Episode 2: Losing Yourself Trying To Be The Perfect Wife: How Good Women Get Lost In The Wrong Roles “You’re not broken. You’re beginning.” — Hannah Hembree Bell In this unfiltered conversation, Hannah sits down with her longtime friend and former client Amanda Diehl — a mom of two, twice divorced, and proof that sometimes the life you want is on the other side of the one that broke you. Together they talk about how good women end up in hard marriages, what shame really feels like, and how to rebuild your identity when the roles of wife and mom stop being enough. This is the episode every woman in “Divorceland” needs — whether you’re thinking about leaving, already in the thick of it, or trying to make sense of who you are after it’s over. 💬 What You’ll Hear 00:00 – The Manifesto Stop saving your life for later. Hannah shares why she started Not Saving It for Later and introduces Amanda — friend, client, and fellow comeback story. 02:00 – The Church Girl & The Pastor’s Wife Amanda’s first marriage at 21 — faith, family expectations, and how doing “everything right” can still go wrong. 06:00 – Identity in the Fire When being “the good wife” and “the perfect mom” becomes your whole personality — and what happens when that crumbles. 12:00 – When You Think It’s Just a Rough Patch What it looked like behind closed doors — the loneliness, the unspoken resentment, and the cultural script that said just stay and pray harder. 18:00 – Guilt, Shame, and the Wake-Up Call Amanda breaks down the difference between guilt and shame, the grief of losing a person who’s still alive, and the moment she realized her kids needed a happy mom more than an intact home. 35:00 – The Second Marriage: Trying to “Fix” the Picture Why she rushed into remarriage, ignored red flags, and learned th…