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98. Before You Can Become the Mother You Need
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- Aug 27, 2026
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Summary
In this episode, I'm sharing highlights from a recent interview I did on the Can We Say That Out Loud podcast with Kara and Greer — a conversation that went deep into estrangement, grief, and the mother-daughter relationship. If you have a strained or nonexistent relationship with your mom, or you're stuck waiting for her to become someone she may never be, this one is for you. I unpack why grieving a mother who's still alive is one of the most necessary and overlooked steps in mothering yourself, and I share a deeply personal hypnotherapy story I've never fully told before. Key Points Why an unrealistic "hope cycle" — waiting for your mom to change — keeps you stuck in resentment, frustration, and unmet needs The difference between accepting the mother you have and grieving the mother you don't, even while she's still living How releasing that hope creates space to awaken your own inner "flourished mother" Why every mother was a daughter first, and remains a "forever daughter" no matter her age Unlearning the belief that worthiness has to be earned A personal story from a pivotal hypnotherapy session on releasing my own mom from a role she couldn't fulfill The three layers of why this grief work matters: escaping the hope cycle, becoming your own mother, and modeling this for your daughter An update on the upcoming program (formerly Mothering Ourselves Mindfully) launching this fall, and our transition from The School of Mom to The Home of Mom Quotes "Grieving a mother who is still alive is so powerful and potent and necessary for so many of us." "Before she was a mom, she was a daughter, and she's a forever daughter." "We are actively rewiring the blueprint." Resources Mentioned Listen to the full interview on the Can We Say That Out Loud podcast with Kara and Greer:…