Episode
202: Shared Finances, Shared Growth: Tackling Financial Dynamics in Couples
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- Money Skills For Therapists
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- Mar 3, 2026
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- 2111
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Summary
Money can sometimes feel easier to manage in your business than in your relationship. In this episode, I sit down with Ed Coambs to gently explore what happens when you bring your money skills home and begin navigating them alongside a partner. We talk about financial intimacy, emotional safety, and what it truly takes to have honest, grounded conversations when two nervous systems — and two lifelong money stories — are in the room. "Financial intimacy is the experience of being able to talk openly, safely, vulnerably about your shared financial life, your money hopes, dreams, aspirations, as well as your fears, worries, and anxieties." - Ed Coambs Building Financial Intimacy and Healthy Money Conversations In a relationship, money is rarely just about numbers. It’s about safety, power, vulnerability, and the stories we each carry from childhood into adulthood. In this conversation, Ed and I unpack how financial intimacy gets built — and how it quietly breaks down — through everyday conversations and unspoken dynamics. I often see couples fall into predictable roles: one partner pushes to engage with money, the other pulls away. Over time, these roles can harden into resentment or shutdown, especially when income shifts, career growth, or differing values enter the picture. Repair is possible! It begins with slowing down, naming old hurts, owning the part you’ve played in past conflicts, and choosing to approach money conversations with collaboration instead of defensiveness. When you tend to both the emotional and practical sides of money together, trust deepens — and conflict softens. Emotional Patterns, Relationship Shifts, and Money Conversations Money shows up in relationships through tone, body language, and nervous system reactions — not just spreadsheets. In th…