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Ep 424 How Two Alphas Build a Marriage That Actually Works w/Dana & Adam
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- Marriage Therapy Radio
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- May 12, 2026
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Summary
Zach sits down with Adam Roach and Dana Gentry, a married couple from Charleston, South Carolina, who have spent nearly a decade building what might be the most strategically intentional relationship he has ever heard described on the show. Both are high-achieving entrepreneurs on their second marriages, and they arrive with real tools, real failures, and a refreshing lack of pretense about how hard it was to get here. The conversation opens with Dana sharing that her first book, Restore: 90 Days to Intentional Living , just landed at number 14 on the USA Today bestseller list, which sets the tone for everything that follows. These are people who do not drift. From their annual January planning retreat to vision boards presented to the whole family, their approach to marriage looks less like a feeling and more like a decision they make over and over again. Adam, a communication-focused coach who played tennis in college, describes how they identified early on, with the help of a therapist, that they were both alphas and would need to figure out who takes the lead and when. That single insight has shaped the way they handle conflict, celebrate each other's wins, and divide the emotional labor of their relationship. Some of the richest material surfaces around what it actually means for two competitive, driven people to stop trying to win and start trying to keep the ball moving. Adam draws a vivid parallel from the tennis court: in a match between two alphas, one will always dominate. But if the goal becomes keeping the rally alive, the whole game changes. Zach builds on this with his own framework for conflict, noting that the problem is never really about winning the point but about whether the relationship is the court or the casualty. The episode closes with two pra…