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82: Why Being Faithful Doesn’t Buy Trust in Your Relationship
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- Make More Love
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- Jun 25, 2026
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- 1092
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Summary
In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen takes on one of the most misunderstood issues in long-term relationships: trust. Most people think about trust in terms of the obvious violations — betrayal, secrets, lies, and affairs. But trust can also erode through the repeated daily letdowns that make a partner feel unsafe, uninformed, dismissed, unsupported, or unable to rely on the relationship. Ellen breaks trust down into seven practical domains: Safety, Security, Caring, Integrity, Fidelity, Reliability, and Repair. Because if you want to rebuild trust, you first have to know where it is breaking down. Part 1: The Trust Deficit In the Big Picture Ellen opens by looking at the larger “trust deficit” we see in society and connects it to what happens inside many business-owner marriages. A trust deficit is not always caused by one major betrayal. It can also build slowly when one partner’s need to feel safe, connected, informed, and secure is not consistently being met. She also explains why many business owners feel confused when their partner does not experience them as trustworthy, especially when they have avoided what Ellen calls the Fatal Four: betrayal, secrets, lies, and affairs. Part 2: The Seven Domains of Trust Trust is not one vague feeling, and it is not an all-or-nothing question. Ellen breaks it into seven domains that help couples identify exactly where trust is strong, where it is strained, and what needs attention. The seven domains are: Safety — Can I trust that I will not be physically harmed, threatened, or deprived of basic needs? Security — Can I trust that I am informed about money, financial risk, and the decisions that affect our shared life? Caring — Can I trust that my feelings, concerns, and reality will be treated with basic respect? Integrit…