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A Matchmaker and a Coach Walk Into a Podcast
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- Love, Laughs, and Lessons
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- Mar 5, 2026
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- 2640
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Summary
What does it actually take to find lasting, secure love in today's swipe-right culture? In this episode, Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai sit down with two powerhouse guests who approach love from completely different angles: Cheryl Maida, matchmaker extraordinaire with 16+ years of experience, and Amber Lavin, a counselor and coach who rewrote her own love story using mindfulness and somatic healing. Together, they tackle the real reasons dating feels so hard right now and what you can do about it. We cover: What secure attachment actually looks like in real life and how to start embodying it even if it does not come naturally to you Why dating apps are designed to keep you addicted and one simple ritual to stay grounded while using them Why texting back and forth for weeks before meeting kills momentum and what to do instead How to figure out your real non-negotiables versus the checklist that is keeping you stuck What men and women both tell their matchmaker about why they think no good partners are left, and why they are wrong Why when someone kind and available finally shows up, it can feel weird or unattractive, and what that means How showing appreciation, including a simple thank you text after a date, goes further than most people realize The reason, season, or lifetime framework for making peace with relationships that did not work out How your nervous system affects who you attract and how to work with it instead of against it Why becoming the person you are looking for is not a cliche, it is actually how the shift happens Guest Bio Cheryl Maida Cheryl Maida is the Director of Matchmaking at Matchmaking.com and has been helping people find real relationships for over 16 years. She did not set out to be a matchmaker. She was a recruiter for executive jobs when her…