Episode
How to come back to each other after years of drift
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- Lights On with Carl Lentz
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- Jul 13, 2026
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- 2705
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Summary
Want to submit questions? Email us at [email protected] Last week Carl and Laura opened up the biggest question in marriage recovery: how do you stop being lonely in your marriage? This week, they pick up right where that left off with the follow-up question thousands of couples are quietly asking. How do we actually come back to each other? In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura tackle three real listener questions that get to the core of reconnection. How long does it take to come back after years of drift? What is a husband missing when his wife says she wants to reconnect but still feels miles away? And the big one: is it possible to fall back in love with the same person, or is that just wishful thinking? You'll hear why connection has to be consistent, not complicated, and why every couple has to stop copying someone else's rhythm and find their own. Laura gets specific about why understanding is the single biggest step in reconnecting, and how comparing your marriage to what you see online is quietly stealing joy from a marriage that's actually working. Carl walks through the reframe that changes everything for a husband still waiting to see results: separate your desire from your dependency. You can want reconnection deeply and still not build your growth on whether the other person meets you there. Stay for the frame that will land hard for someone this week: be impressed more easily. Small attempts turn into bigger ones when someone believes they can win. Plus the truth about repair attempts (the strongest predictor of long-term marital success), the "if you woke up tomorrow feeling connected, what would be different" question you can take home tonight, and the line that will stick: love is not a feeling. It's a choice. Follow Carl at: https://www.…