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300: Women in Leadership: 300 Episodes, 1500 Women, and Everything I've Changed My Mind About
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- May 12, 2026
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Summary
Three hundred episodes. Approaching 1500 women coached across corporate tech, startups, and academia. And a long list of things I used to believe that I no longer do. Episode 300 of Leading Women in Tech is different from any episode I've made before. This is not a tips episode. It is not a framework. It is my honest account of what seven years of conversations and nearly 1500 coaching relationships has actually taught me about women in leadership — including the places where the conventional wisdom is wrong, the advice I've heard given to women again and again that has caused real damage, and what I would say now that I would not have said at Episode 1. In this episode I cover: Why leaning in was the wrong answer — not because the system is unfair, but because it asks women to lean into a male model that was never designed for them Why getting a seat at the table was never the whole answer — and what the goal actually is The real problem with "just speak up more" and "just be more confident" — and why telling women to be more confident before they've had the chance to build it is one of the most common ways we set them up to fail Why "you can have it all, just not at the same time" does so much quiet damage — and what to say instead The zone of genius trap that nobody warns you about — and why staying in it is the goal, but only if you notice when it has changed Why you need a mentor, a coach, and a sponsor — and why most senior men in tech have all three while most women have only one What working harder actually costs women — and what to invest in instead Why we are more individual than society would have us believe, and what happens when women stop performing someone else's model of leadership And why, despite everything, I am genuinely optimistic. This episode is…