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Why You’re Not Getting Dates (Even If You “Have It Together”) (Ep. 72)
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- Apr 15, 2026
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Summary
Struggling with dating even though you have your life together? This episode breaks down why being “a good guy” isn’t enough—and what actually makes you stand out. If you’ve been putting yourself out there, using apps, staying active, and still getting no results, this episode will help you understand what’s missing. We dive into how women perceive profiles, why identity matters more than checklists, and how to create real attraction both online and in person. We also cover how to handle dating multiple women without overthinking—and why trying to “do it perfectly” might be holding you back. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1 Use Coupon SMMAN20OFF when purchasing Journal for 20% off. Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:00 Stop Overthinking Dating Decisions 00:00 Welcome + Podcast Intro 00:40 Hawaii Trip Recap & Behind the Scenes 02:18 Collaborating on a Dating Podcast 03:30 Sourdough, Passion & Attraction 06:17 Unique Hobbies That Make You Stand Out 09:58 Dating Problem: 5 Years, Zero Dates 11:32 Why “Having It Together” Isn’t Enough 13:19 Why Women Skip “Normal” Men 16:07 How to Describe Yourself Attractively 18:27 Passion vs Checklist Energy 22:18 Building a Magnetic Identity 26:09 Dating Dilemma: Multiple Women 29:42 Scarcity Mindset in Dating 34:38 How to Date Multiple Women Respectfully 39:32 Stop Trying to Be Perfect in Dating 43:01 Speed Round Dating Questions 52:08 Listener Feedback + Outro #DatingAdvice #MensDating #confidence Keywords: dating advice for men, why am I not getting dates, how to stand out in dating, dating apps not working, how to attract women naturally, dating mindset for men, how to be more attractive to women, dating confidence tips, why women ignore me…