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HI #17: Dr. Alduan Tartt: The Real Reason You're Still Single, Interview Energy, & Building Legacy in Marriage
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- Jun 11, 2026
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Summary
TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro 01:08 Why Marriage Looks Negative 02:38 Media and Marriage Mindset 04:33 Success and Dating Dynamics 09:51 Positioning to Meet Men 14:13 Top Traits Men Want 16:51 Women Making First Move 25:22 High Value Standards and Sex 30:25 Avoiding Interview Energy 35:38 Ring Timing and Readiness 40:19 Mutual Satisfaction in Marriage 44:35 Marriage Starts at Home 45:21 Learning Real Oneness 46:49 Covenant Habits That Protect 49:47 Disagree Without Contempt 51:06 Another Baby Decision 55:51 Trusting Your Wife’s Wisdom 58:10 Dating Green Flag Influence 01:04:02 Three Tools for Marriage 01:09:36 Stuck in Getting Ready 01:14:49 Softness Needs Safety 01:19:23 Roles Based on Talent 01:22:22 Seasons and Shared Load 01:24:55 Skills Over Feelings 01:26:24 Privacy Over Popularity 01:27:15 Trauma In Marriage 01:29:27 Conflict Timing Styles 01:33:20 Vulnerability Builds Strength 01:37:51 Faith And Mental Health 01:42:03 Men Hurt Differently 01:48:45 Stoicism Versus Openness 01:51:55 Practicing Safe Vulnerability 01:54:17 Secure With Her Success 02:04:28 Programs Retreats And Farewell What happens when a licensed psychologist AND ordained minister sits down to expose the hidden dynamics keeping Black men and women from finding each other? Dr. Alduan Tartt (Morehouse '98) joins Jessica Lane MacDonald for one of the most honest, practical, and spiritually grounded conversations about dating, marriage, and legacy you'll hear all year. In this episode: Why successful women can't find men — and where they're actually looking wrong The "interview energy" mistake that eliminates women before the first date Why women should make the first move (and exactly how to do it) The #1 trait that predicts whether a man will be a great husband (hint: it's not income) Ho…