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The Missing Ingredient in Childhood Friendships [with Prof. Nicholas Epley]
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- Aug 4, 2026
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Summary
Your child doesn't need better social skills. They need more chances to use them. University of Chicago behavioural scientist Professor Nicholas Epley explains why we're wired for connection but keep avoiding it. His research reveals one surprising mistake almost all of us make and how parents can help children build stronger friendships by changing one simple habit. This conversation will make you think differently about strangers, screens and the small moments that shape confident, connected kids. KEY POINTS Why we consistently underestimate how much people want to connect with us. The surprising experiment that changed Nicholas Epley's research career. What today's children are missing, despite being more digitally connected than ever. How parents accidentally teach children to avoid social interaction. One simple way to help children become more confident in social situations. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE "If you're a parent who never reaches out to others, your kids won't either. If you do, they will." RESOURCES MENTIONED A Little More Social by Professor Nicholas Epley ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Start one conversation with someone you don't know this week. Let your child see it happen. Choose face-to-face conversations over messages whenever you can. Create regular opportunities for your children to spend time with other people without a screen between them. Talk with your children about how connection often feels awkward before it feels rewarding. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.