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What Sex Was Never Meant to Do - with John | Ep. 202
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- Jul 22, 2026
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Summary
What if sex was never meant to create connection—but to celebrate the connection that's already there? In this episode, Janna sits down with John for a thoughtful and honest conversation about one of the most common dynamics in long-term relationships: when one partner looks to sex for closeness while the other needs closeness before they desire sex. John shares how he came to realize that he was asking sex to do a job it was never meant to do. Together, they explore the emotions hiding beneath sexual rejection, the cultural messages that shape our expectations around intimacy, and the powerful shift that happened when he stopped focusing on how to get his wife to want sex and started building genuine emotional connection instead. Sign up for Janna's free class , " The Truth About Women's Libido: Why Everything You've Tried Hasn't Worked and What To Do Instead." Watch the class as a couple or on your own. Classes happen on Sept. 21 and 22. Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together . Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29. Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women. Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.