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Self Care & Support | Self-Gaslighting After Separation: When You Stop Trusting Your Own Reality
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- Divorce and Separation
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- Jan 28, 2026
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Summary
If you're separated (or separating) and you keep replaying the past, rewriting conversations, and wondering "Maybe I'm the one who's wrong…" this episode is for you. One of the most common (and most unsettling) things I see after a breakup isn't confusion about money, logistics, or parenting schedules. It's people quietly doubting their own reality. There's a name for it: self-gaslighting and it can keep you stuck long after the relationship ends. In this short solo episode, I explain what self-gaslighting is, why separation turns up the volume, and how to rebuild trust in yourself safely and slowly. In this episode, we cover: What self-gaslighting is (and how it differs from everyday self-doubt). Why divorce/separation can make your inner critic louder even if leaving was the right call. The "quiet, reasonable" thoughts that slowly erode self-trust. Two real-world examples (Sarah + Tom) and how self-gaslighting shows up differently. Practical ways to start coming back to your reality, your instincts, and your steadiness. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE . Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Produ…