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Men Giving Up On Dating: Why It Backfires [Ep 135]
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- Jun 26, 2026
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Men Giving Up on Dating: Why It Backfires Men giving up on dating is everywhere right now, from red pill spaces to dating apps to chronically online fights about men and women. John and Echo get into why some men are checking out, why online dating makes everyone feel worse, and why blaming women will not get men the relationship they actually want. This episode breaks down dating apps, looksmaxing, the “man vs bear” conversation, women raising their standards, men losing confidence, and why real-life experience matters more than internet doom spirals. John brings the direct reality check for men who say they have tried everything, while Echo explains what women are actually looking for when they want safety, confidence, and a man who respects himself. In This Episode Why more men are opting out of dating and relationships How dating apps and social media distort attraction and standards Why “looksmaxing” can make men seem less attractive, not more The difference between real-life dating and online dating narratives Why blaming women keeps men stuck in a victim mindset How confidence, effort, and self-respect change the dating game Why good men may have more opportunity than ever right now What women mean when they want a man who feels safe and solid Timestamps 0:00 — Men Opting Out Of Dating 3:00 — Red Pill Culture Goes Mainstream 6:21 — The Man Versus Bear Debate 10:23 — Viral Dating Content Distorts Reality 15:56 — The Top 20% Solution 20:37 — Why Looksmaxing Can Backfire 23:01 — Take Dating Offline 27:21 — Have You Actually Tried? 30:48 — Set Realistic Expectations 33:19 — Why Women Need To Feel Safe 36:24 — The Opportunity For Good Men 43:52 — Trusting Your Intuition Connect 🎙 Full show notes & resources 📺 YouTube 📷 Instagram: @betterthanperfectpodcast 📧 Subsc…