Episode
#119- Presence Over Performance: The Gift of Listening During the Holidays
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- Below The Circle
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- Dec 24, 2025
- Duration seconds
- 936
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- https://drphyllishayesreams.com
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Summary
In this holiday episode, Dr. Phyllis explores the idea of presence over performance, especially for high achieving Christian women who feel pulled into “Martha mode” during the holidays. She shares how the pressure to host, fix, and keep everything running smoothly can crowd out meaningful connection. Drawing from her own experiences as a physician and coach, Dr. Phyllis reflects on how problem solving habits often spill into personal relationships. Instead of listening, we rush to offer answers, missing opportunities to be fully present with the people we love. She introduces her simple LISTEN method as a way to slow down and connect more deeply. By leaning in, asking open ended questions, allowing silence, and responding with empathy, listening becomes an intentional practice rather than another task. This episode invites listeners to choose presence as their holiday gift, letting go of the urge to fix and making space for deeper understanding and connection. http://drphyllishayesreams.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/ https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams