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386. The Hidden Cost of Pretending to Have It All Together: Featuring Chris Valli
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- Aspire to Lead
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- Jun 28, 2026
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- 1535
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Summary
What if vulnerability is not a weakness, but the very thing that helps leaders build trust, connection, and courage? In this episode of Aspire to Lead, Joshua Stamper talks with Chris Valli, a New Zealand author, keynote speaker, former journalist, educator, and founder of the VOIC framework, Vulnerability Opens Inner Courage. Chris shares how a highly publicized turning point in his teaching career became the catalyst for a deeper understanding of authentic leadership, emotional intelligence, and the power of using your voice. Together, they explore the hidden cost of “having it all together,” the role of storytelling in creating belonging, and why difficult conversations are essential for healthy school culture. Chris also discusses reframing masculinity, building psychologically safe environments, and how courage grows when leaders are willing to be seen, speak honestly, and lead with empathy, compassion, and purpose. About Chris Valli Chris Valli is a New Zealand author, keynote speaker, former journalist, educator and founder of the VOIC Framework (Vulnerability Opens Inner Courage). Following a highly publicised turning point in his teaching career, Chris transformed adversity into a platform for authentic leadership, helping educators, leaders and communities embrace vulnerability as a catalyst for courage, connection and growth. His work explores emotional literacy, wellbeing, resilience and the future of leadership through the lens of human connection. Chris is also the author of Put the Phone Away and the forthcoming Beyond the Chair, inspiring audiences to lead with heart before hierarchy. Follow Chris Valli Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61590626252770 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-valli-983b54311 Stories that Stir: https://…