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94. When a Group Chat Goes in Circles — And You Leave Feeling Like You’re the Problem
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- ADHD Mums
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- Mar 30, 2026
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- 843
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Summary
If you’ve ever left a group chat replaying everything you said… and everything you didn’t… and somehow landed on ‘that felt off… was that me?’ this episode is for you. Because this isn’t just about group chats. Or school committees. Or awkward conversations that go nowhere. It’s about what happens when everyone in the room is solving a different problem… and no one realises it. In this episode, we unpack the kind of interaction that looks normal on the surface — calm, polite, ‘reasonable’ — but leaves you carrying it for hours (or days). The replaying, the second-guessing, the quiet shift into ‘I must have handled that wrong.’ And why that feeling doesn’t mean what you think it means. 🧠 What We Cover in This Episode: Why some conversations go in circles and never actually resolve What’s really happening when everyone sounds ‘right’ but nothing lands How different brains track completely different things in the same conversation Why tension builds even when no one is being openly confrontational The moment a conversation stops being about the topic — and becomes about identity Why you leave interactions with a version of yourself you didn’t walk in with How group chats split into side conversations (and why that regulates people) The hidden role of fairness, meaning, effort, and threat in communication Why your brain keeps replaying it later — even when it’s ‘over’ What it actually means when something feels ‘off’ (and why that matters) 💭 This episode is for you if: You replay conversations long after they’ve finished You leave group chats feeling uncomfortable but can’t explain why You’ve thought ‘did I make that worse?’ You pick up on tension that others seem to miss You feel responsible for smoothing things over (even when you didn’t start it) You carry interactions…