Episode
3. It's 11:40pm. I'm Not on My Phone for Fun. I'm on the Password Reset Page for the Third Time
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- ADHD Mums
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- Jun 3, 2026
- Duration seconds
- 1338
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- https://adhdmums.com.au/captivate/ohone-down
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Summary
You're at the dinner table you fought to make happen. Your phone lights up — school app, swimming's been moved, the bag has to be packed tonight. You know in your bones that if you don't write it down right now, it's gone by morning. You pick up your phone. Your kid says, you said no phones at dinner, I'm getting my iPad then. The parenting advice has told you you've just damaged everyone. The research says you've just used the exact tool your brain needs. What We Cover The dinner table, the school app, the swimming change, the kid line — and the impossible decision in the middle of it Why 'phones down at dinner' advice was written for a woman who doesn't need the advice Cognitive offloading — the research-backed reason your phone is your external hard drive, not your hobby The 11:40pm password reset window — the unpaid admin job nobody sees, and the morning question from your kid ( why were you up so late? ) you can't answer The co-regulation gap — what happens when the advice assumes a regulated parent and a regulated child, and neither one is in your house at 5pm The flip — your daughter isn't watching you on a phone. She's watching you teach her how to externalise her working memory before her brain needs to do it too. Why the most important thing she sees you do is recover from being overwhelmed, not put down a device Related Episodes EP49 QUICK RESET: I'm Not Lazy — My House Doesn't Have a Memory — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-49-quick-reset-im-not-lazy-my-house-just-doesnt-have-a-memory/ S3: When a Neuroscientist Says iPads Cause ADHD — https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-podcast-episodes/when-a-neuroscientist-says-ipads-cause-adhd-and-you-wonder-if-youve-damaged-your-kids/ EP80: The Invisible Coordination Load — https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-podcast-…