{"podcast":{"title":"You Can Be Both","slug":"you-can-be-both-7576307","podcast_index_feed_id":7576307,"rss_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/10b47a908/podcast/rss","website_url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/you-can-be-both","image_url":"https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_nologo/44742130/44742130-1762547217244-a90f5ddea203c.jpg","author":"Lauren Lanzaretta","episode_count":36,"summary":"You Can Be Both is hosted by singer/songwriter Lauren Lanzaretta, who shares honest conversations about being both gay and Christian—two identities often seen as incompatible. The podcast creates space for LGBTQ+ people of faith to find healing, community, and a deeper connection with Christ while fully embracing who they are. As a first step to your healing journey, I recommend the “LGBTQ+ Healing & Resource Guide” - go to www.youcanbeboth.com for this and other resources. Join the You Can Be Both Community App https://youcanbeboth.mn.co/plans/1984569?bundle_token=a02f1c1a95e905aa187210545","last_synced_at":"2026-07-05T14:19:26.748663+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/you-can-be-both-7576307"},"episode":{"title":"I Married a Man... Then Realized I'm a LESBIAN | Christian Coming Out Story","slug":"i-married-a-man-then-realized-i-m-a-lesbian-christian-coming-out-story","published_at":"2026-03-01T16:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/you-can-be-both-7576307/i-married-a-man-then-realized-i-m-a-lesbian-christian-coming-out-story","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/you-can-be-both-7576307","url":"https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/you-can-be-both/episodes/I-Married-a-Man----Then-Realized-Im-a-LESBIAN--Christian-Coming-Out-Story-e3foiuo","audio_url":"https://anchor.fm/s/10b47a908/podcast/play/116197784/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-2-1%2F419047822-44100-2-bb5ab805e628c.mp3","summary":"What happens when you grow up evangelical, marry a man, build a life… and then realize you’re actually a lesbian? In this powerful episode of the You Can Be Both Podcast, host Lauren Lanzaretta sits down with Sophia Spallino — luxury lesbian matchmaker and founder of The Queer Country Club — to talk about coming out at 29, leaving a heterosexual marriage, losing everything, and rebuilding a life rooted in truth, faith, and aligned partnership. Sophia shares: • Growing up in evangelical Christianity • Suppressing same-sex attraction for years • Marrying a man while knowing something wasn’t right • The moment she finally admitted, “I’m a lesbian” • Losing her home, finances, and stability after coming out • Why so many married Christian women are secretly struggling • What lesbians are REALLY looking for in a partner • The truth about monogamy, dating apps, and modern queer dating • Why faith and sexuality don’t have to be opposites If you’ve ever felt torn between your faith and your identity… this conversation is for you. Share this with someone who needs to hear it! ✨ You can be both LGBTQ and a person of faith. ✨ Follow us on @Youcanbeboth, @Lanzaretta ⸻ 🔗 Resources Mentioned: • LGBTQ Healing & Resource Guide: https://www.laurenlanzaretta.com/youcanbeboth • Queer Country Club Dating Platform: https://queercountryclub.com/ • Follow Sophia: https://www.instagram.com/sophiaspallino/?hl=en #ChristianLesbian #LateBloomingLesbian #ComingOutStory #FaithAndSexuality #ExEvangelical #LesbianDating #QueerChristian #LGBTQFaith #ReligiousTrauma #WomenLovingWomen #LesbianMatchmaker","meta_description":"What happens when you grow up evangelical, marry a man, build a life… and then realize you’re actually a lesbian? In this powerful episode of the You Can…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":4095,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/you-can-be-both-7576307/episodes/i-married-a-man-then-realized-i-m-a-lesbian-christian-coming-out-story/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/you-can-be-both-7576307/i-married-a-man-then-realized-i-m-a-lesbian-christian-coming-out-story.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}