{"podcast":{"title":"We Chat Divorce Podcast","slug":"we-chat-divorce-podcast-980618","podcast_index_feed_id":980618,"rss_url":"https://feeds.megaphone.fm/wechatdivorce","website_url":"https://mydivorcesolution.com/","image_url":"https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/2f80888c-5ea3-11ec-9068-cf302e42d514/image/25a8db58143a8944c7b7a625b053447a.png?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress","author":"My Divorce Solution","episode_count":215,"summary":"Divorce is emotional — but it’s also financial. We Chat Divorce helps you understand both. Join hosts Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan, co-founders of My Divorce Solution, for expert divorce insights, real stories, and proven financial strategies that turn fear into focus, focus into knowledge, and knowledge into power. Whether you’re just considering divorce, in the middle of it, or rebuilding after, you’ll learn how to protect your finances, make informed decisions, and move forward with clarity and confidence. The #1 podcast for financial divorce preparation, empowerment, and real talk about money, marriage, and moving on.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-09T02:20:36.461456+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/we-chat-divorce-podcast-980618"},"episode":{"title":"174. Divorcing a Narcissist: How to Break the Emotional Grip and Get Financial Clarity with Dr. Onalee","slug":"174-divorcing-a-narcissist-how-to-break-the-emotional-grip-and-get-financial-clarity-with-dr-onalee","published_at":"2025-12-17T14:56:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/we-chat-divorce-podcast-980618/174-divorcing-a-narcissist-how-to-break-the-emotional-grip-and-get-financial-clarity-with-dr-onalee","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/we-chat-divorce-podcast-980618","url":"https://www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/pdst.fm/e/chrt.fm/track/G4CF79/traffic.megaphone.fm/MHL5413737009.mp3","audio_url":"https://www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/pdst.fm/e/chrt.fm/track/G4CF79/traffic.megaphone.fm/MHL5413737009.mp3","summary":"Narcissistic partners don’t just manipulate emotions — they manipulate money, security, and your sense of stability. In divorce, that mix is dangerous: fear clouds judgment, and confusion gets expensive. In this episode of We Chat Divorce, Karen Chellew (Legal Liaison) and Catherine Shanahan (Certified Divorce Financial Analyst) sit down with Dr. Onalee, an expert in narcissistic relationship dynamics, to break down what actually helps you recover — emotionally and financially — when you’re dealing with gaslighting, coercion, and high-conflict behavior. You’ll learn Dr. Onalee’s DONE framework (a 4-step recovery process), why “trying to win” arguments backfires with narcissistic personalities, and how verified financial clarity becomes the backbone that helps you stop reacting and start leading. How narcissistic dynamics show up as financial control, dependency, and fear Why people stay: the real role of financial paralysis (even when there’s money) The love-bombing → withdrawal cycle and why it keeps people hooked The counterintuitive strategy that protects your peace: neutrality, not engagement Why you don’t need to prove, protect, or defend your story to “flying monkeys” A practical mindset shift for long marriages: you’re not “too late” — you’re waking up A crucial divorce truth: you may not need to defend yourself socially, but you do need to prove assets with documents What to do if you’re afraid to ask for financial records or worried your spouse will find out you’re preparing Why “lawyering up” too early can pour gasoline on the fire — and what to do first instead Dr. Onalee teaches a simple framework to move from stuck to stable: D — Decide you’re done O — Look at the origin (the wound/pattern being triggered) N — No more (boundaries + detachment from proving…","meta_description":"Narcissistic partners don’t just manipulate emotions — they manipulate money, security, and your sense of stability. In divorce, that mix is dangerous: fe…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2319,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/we-chat-divorce-podcast-980618/episodes/174-divorcing-a-narcissist-how-to-break-the-emotional-grip-and-get-financial-clarity-with-dr-onalee/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/we-chat-divorce-podcast-980618/174-divorcing-a-narcissist-how-to-break-the-emotional-grip-and-get-financial-clarity-with-dr-onalee.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}