{"podcast":{"title":"Unstuck with Jay Abbasi","slug":"unstuck-with-jay-abbasi-7051050","podcast_index_feed_id":7051050,"rss_url":"https://www.spreaker.com/show/6233703/episodes/feed","website_url":"https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unstuck-with-jay-abbasi--6233703","image_url":"https://d3wo5wojvuv7l.cloudfront.net/t_rss_itunes_square_1400/images.spreaker.com/original/1b397f8d4822dd1dabc23bcc5b98ce5a.jpg","author":"Jay Abbasi","episode_count":193,"summary":"Real people. Real stories. Real solutions. I’m Jay Abbasi, host of Unstuck, and as a former leader at Tesla, I understand the whirlwind of challenges in the modern work scene. In this podcast, we reveal how to thrive in demanding work environments through relatable, real-life stories. Each episode starts with a true story of modern professional challenges, followed by expert insights to help you thrive at work including practical advice on resilience, mental health, and work life balance. Get unstuck and build the life and career you’ve always wanted.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-20T16:20:37.484361+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unstuck-with-jay-abbasi-7051050"},"episode":{"title":"177: Stop Being So Hard on Yourself","slug":"177-stop-being-so-hard-on-yourself","published_at":"2026-06-12T08:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unstuck-with-jay-abbasi-7051050/177-stop-being-so-hard-on-yourself","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unstuck-with-jay-abbasi-7051050","url":"https://www.spreaker.com/episode/177-stop-being-so-hard-on-yourself--72494973","audio_url":"https://api.spreaker.com/download/episode/72494973/pdy1941598419.mp3","summary":"The way you talk to yourself may be the very thing holding you back. In this solo episode, Jay explores the difference between self-criticism, self-observation, and flow states, and why understanding these distinctions can dramatically improve your performance, resilience, and well-being. Drawing from the teachings of Anthony de Mello, Viktor Frankl, and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Jay explains why harsh self-judgment creates unnecessary psychological suffering and how a practice of self-observation can help you become more self-aware without becoming self-critical. He also breaks down the role of flow states and when to observe yourself versus when to let go and fully immerse yourself in the moment. Notable Quotes “There is only one cause of unhappiness. The false beliefs you have in your head.” — Anthony de Mello “Self-criticism does not serve you.” — Jay Abbasi “Be that kind of coach for yourself that you would want if you were playing sports.” — Jay Abbasi “You need to be able to observe yourself without judgment.” — Jay Abbasi “Flow is being completely involved in an activity for its own sake.” — Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi Resources and Links Jay Abbasi Website: https://jayabbasi.me/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayabbasi/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayabbasi_/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejayabbasi/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jayabbasipodcast Get Featured on “Unstuck” Want to have your story featured on “Unstuck”? Submit your story through the link below, and Jay may choose to highlight your story on a future episode and offer you personalized advice on how to overcome any challenge. Submit Your Story Join Us Next Time On Monday’s episode, you’ll meet Jamie, Director of Regulatory Affairs for a medical equipment manufacturer, who know…","meta_description":"The way you talk to yourself may be the very thing holding you back. In this solo episode, Jay explores the difference between self-criticism, self-observ…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":757,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/unstuck-with-jay-abbasi-7051050/episodes/177-stop-being-so-hard-on-yourself/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unstuck-with-jay-abbasi-7051050/177-stop-being-so-hard-on-yourself.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}