{"podcast":{"title":"Unraveling Me","slug":"unraveling-me-7569853","podcast_index_feed_id":7569853,"rss_url":"https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/690534bf3906f8011add9159","website_url":"https://shows.acast.com/unraveling-me","image_url":"https://assets.pippa.io/shows/690534bf3906f8011add9159/1764205341144-b718e518-900f-43d5-82d8-91561a3645ff.jpeg","author":"Kara Rubinstein-Deyerin & Alan Katz","episode_count":41,"summary":"Join host Kara Rubinstein Deyerin as she speaks with people who, like her, are impacted by NPE's (non-parental events), DNA surprises, adoption, assisted reproduction, or other unexpected information bombs that reveal the truth about who they are and their family relationships and secrets. As anyone who's ever experienced such an event can tell you, it separates you from you. From knowing your own story. In \"Unraveling Me\", Kara explores the myriad ways why knowing the truth about who you are and who your family is matters. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-30T16:19:46.198920+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unraveling-me-7569853"},"episode":{"title":"S1E28 Unraveling Maria","slug":"s1e28-unraveling-maria","published_at":"2026-05-14T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unraveling-me-7569853/s1e28-unraveling-maria","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unraveling-me-7569853","url":"https://shows.acast.com/unraveling-me/episodes/s1e28-unraveling-marie","audio_url":"https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/690534bf3906f8011add9159/e/69f3f2dc8466468ab00a01bd/media.mp3","summary":"S1 E28 Unraveling Maria In this wide-ranging and deeply insightful conversation, Kara and Maria explore what happens when personal discovery intersects with law, ethics, culture, and belonging. Maria was 53 years old, standing in her kitchen, when a DNA test result upended everything she thought she knew about her identity. Raised in a deeply Catholic family, with a Filipino immigrant mother and an Irish American father, Maria’s life had always felt coherent, until a test revealed she was half Ashkenazi Jewish. SHOW NOTES Kara and Maria discuss: Receiving unexpected DNA results and the immediate unraveling that followed Confronting parental secrecy and navigating a mother unwilling to engage The search for, and eventual relationship with, her genetic father How late discovery reshapes identity, faith, and cultural belonging The legal and ethical risks of consumer DNA testing, including privacy and insurance concerns Misattributed parentage and the broader policy gaps affecting NPEs, adoptees, and donor-conceived people Sobriety, trauma, and the importance of support when facing life-altering truths The tension between truth-telling and protecting family secrets Maria brings both personal vulnerability and professional insight as an attorney, offering a perspective that goes beyond individual story into systemic impact. Her experience led her to write Before and After the DNA Test , a comprehensive guide to the legal, medical, and ethical realities many people never consider before “spitting in a tube.” Everyone has the right to know the truth about where they come from. Unraveling Me speaks to those people impacted by DNA surprises, NPEs (non-paternal event), adoption, assisted reproduction, and other revelations that their parentage isn't entirely what they thought. H…","meta_description":"S1 E28 Unraveling Maria In this wide-ranging and deeply insightful conversation, Kara and Maria explore what happens when personal discovery intersects wi…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3463,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/unraveling-me-7569853/episodes/s1e28-unraveling-maria/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unraveling-me-7569853/s1e28-unraveling-maria.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}