{"podcast":{"title":"Unblock Your BS","slug":"unblock-your-bs-7162348","podcast_index_feed_id":7162348,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/559025/rss","website_url":"https://www.unblockyourbs.com","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/8/f/3/e/8f3eaf409c60ced416c3140a3186d450/UBS_POD_cover_artwork_2000_x_2000_px.png","author":"Unblock Your BS, LLC","episode_count":79,"summary":"Are you sick of the BS holding you back? \"Unblock Your BS\" is your no-nonsense guide to healing, self-awareness, and reclaiming your power. Hosted by Coach Tara, a certified somatic release breathwork practitioner and self awareness coach, this podcast dives deep into the belief systems (and, let's be real, the bullshit) that keep us stuck. Each episode explores topics like self-love, emotional intelligence, healing from anxiety and depression, breaking free from toxic cycles, the root causes of our own people pleasing and self abandonment in relationships, and finding your authentic voice. Whether you're navigating a breakup or divorce, recovering from burnout, or just looking for tools to live a more aligned life, this podcast is your space to unblock your potential. It's time to rewrite your story, take radical ownership of your life, and join the self-aware army. Let's break through the BS together!","last_synced_at":"2026-07-15T16:20:02.949790+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unblock-your-bs-7162348"},"episode":{"title":"Why Defensiveness Is Wrecking Your Relationship (And What It's Really Protecting)","slug":"why-defensiveness-is-wrecking-your-relationship-and-what-it-s-really-protecting","published_at":"2026-02-11T08:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unblock-your-bs-7162348/why-defensiveness-is-wrecking-your-relationship-and-what-it-s-really-protecting","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unblock-your-bs-7162348","url":"https://44c46f29-c836-4e72-8af1-72748ae1234e.libsyn.com/why-defensiveness-is-wrecking-your-relationship-and-what-its-really-protecting","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/44c46f29-c836-4e72-8af1-72748ae1234e/Episode_56_Audio_Podcast.mp3?dest-id=4829170","summary":"If every conversation with your partner feels like an attack… If feedback turns into defensiveness, shutdowns, or arguments… If you keep asking yourself, \"Why does this keep happening?\" This episode is for you. In today's conversation, I break down why defensiveness isn't confidence or self-advocacy… it's a nervous system response rooted in shame and early childhood wiring . We're unpacking: Why your body reacts before your logic ever shows up How defensiveness protects an identity wound, not your relationship The difference between guilt (\"I did something wrong\") and shame (\"I am wrong\") Why high-achieving men feel regulated at work but unravel at home How childhood beliefs quietly drive adult relationship conflict What actually changes when you heal self-worth instead of chasing validation This isn't about blaming your partner.It's about understanding what's happening inside you , and learning how to interrupt the cycle so you can show up steady, grounded, and emotionally safe. If you're ready to stop surviving your relationship and start rebuilding from the inside out , I'm inviting you to my free training: 👉 From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuild A one-hour class on nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and rebuilding connection without shame or self-abandonment. Register here: ⁠ unblockyourbs.com/rebuild ⁠ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: ⁠ unblockyourbs.com/saa ⁠ Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: ⁠ unblockyourbs.com/healthymen ⁠ Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 cal…","meta_description":"If every conversation with your partner feels like an attack… If feedback turns into defensiveness, shutdowns, or arguments… If you keep asking yourself,…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1132,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/unblock-your-bs-7162348/episodes/why-defensiveness-is-wrecking-your-relationship-and-what-it-s-really-protecting/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unblock-your-bs-7162348/why-defensiveness-is-wrecking-your-relationship-and-what-it-s-really-protecting.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}