{"podcast":{"title":"Unblock Your BS","slug":"unblock-your-bs-7162348","podcast_index_feed_id":7162348,"rss_url":"https://feeds.libsyn.com/559025/rss","website_url":"https://www.unblockyourbs.com","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/8/f/3/e/8f3eaf409c60ced416c3140a3186d450/UBS_POD_cover_artwork_2000_x_2000_px.png","author":"Unblock Your BS, LLC","episode_count":79,"summary":"Are you sick of the BS holding you back? \"Unblock Your BS\" is your no-nonsense guide to healing, self-awareness, and reclaiming your power. Hosted by Coach Tara, a certified somatic release breathwork practitioner and self awareness coach, this podcast dives deep into the belief systems (and, let's be real, the bullshit) that keep us stuck. Each episode explores topics like self-love, emotional intelligence, healing from anxiety and depression, breaking free from toxic cycles, the root causes of our own people pleasing and self abandonment in relationships, and finding your authentic voice. Whether you're navigating a breakup or divorce, recovering from burnout, or just looking for tools to live a more aligned life, this podcast is your space to unblock your potential. It's time to rewrite your story, take radical ownership of your life, and join the self-aware army. Let's break through the BS together!","last_synced_at":"2026-07-15T16:20:02.949790+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unblock-your-bs-7162348"},"episode":{"title":"The \"Good Guy\" Trap That Quietly Destroys Relationships","slug":"the-good-guy-trap-that-quietly-destroys-relationships","published_at":"2026-06-03T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unblock-your-bs-7162348/the-good-guy-trap-that-quietly-destroys-relationships","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unblock-your-bs-7162348","url":"https://44c46f29-c836-4e72-8af1-72748ae1234e.libsyn.com/the-good-guy-trap-that-quietly-destroys-relationships","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/44c46f29-c836-4e72-8af1-72748ae1234e/Episode_73_Audio_Podcast.mp3?dest-id=4829170","summary":"What happens when a man spends years trying to earn love by abandoning himself? In this episode, I sit down with Healthy Men-tality member Carlos for an honest conversation about nervous system regulation, shame, people-pleasing, emotional burnout, marriage struggles, and learning how to stop losing yourself inside relationships. Carlos shares what led him to the program after his wife hit a breaking point in their marriage, including isolation, depression, emotional shutdown, loss of identity, and feeling completely overwhelmed after moving his family internationally. Together, we unpack: Why people-pleasing eventually creates resentment The hidden relationship between shame and self-abandonment What emotional leadership actually looks like Why nervous system regulation changes parenting The difference between guilt and shame How men lose themselves trying to \"earn\" love Why so many men struggle to advocate for their needs The danger of stopping the work once things start feeling good One of the biggest themes throughout this episode: You cannot create emotional safety while abandoning yourself. There's also a powerful section around the \"good guy\" identity and how many men quietly judge themselves so harshly internally that they become trapped in performance, approval-seeking, and fear of disappointing others. And honestly… if you're a dad, the parenting conversation alone is worth listening to. Carlos shares how nervous system work changed the way he responds to chaos with his kids.. moving from overwhelm and snapping into playfulness, patience, and connection. If you're trying to rebuild yourself, your confidence, your emotional stability, or your relationship, this episode will hit home. If you wanna know more about the Healthy Men-tality Program, you can join my…","meta_description":"What happens when a man spends years trying to earn love by abandoning himself? In this episode, I sit down with Healthy Men-tality member Carlos for an h…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3696,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/unblock-your-bs-7162348/episodes/the-good-guy-trap-that-quietly-destroys-relationships/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/unblock-your-bs-7162348/the-good-guy-trap-that-quietly-destroys-relationships.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}