{"podcast":{"title":"Typology","slug":"typology-57896","podcast_index_feed_id":57896,"rss_url":"https://typology.libsyn.com/rss","website_url":"http://www.typologypodcast.com","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/1/0/5/2/1052d9464965da27/typology_artwork.jpg","author":"Ian Morgan Cron","episode_count":465,"summary":"Who are we? Why do we act, think and feel the way we do? How can we become our best, most authentic selves? Welcome to Typology, a podcast that explores the mystery of the human personality and how we can use the Enneagram typing system as a tool to become our best, most authentic selves. Hosted by author, speaker and counselor, Ian Morgan Cron, Typology features interviews with thought leaders from every sphere of life, including renowned Enneagram authors and teachers, psychologists, theologians, artists, business leaders, neuroscientists, philosophers, and more. In other words, we'll be talking with people who are trying to become the best version of themselves in the world.","last_synced_at":"2026-07-03T06:18:11.543610+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/typology-57896"},"episode":{"title":"The Way You Communicate Is Costing You Connection | Jason VanRuler","slug":"the-way-you-communicate-is-costing-you-connection-jason-vanruler","published_at":"2026-06-04T15:08:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/typology-57896/the-way-you-communicate-is-costing-you-connection-jason-vanruler","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/typology-57896","url":"https://typology.libsyn.com/the-way-you-communicate-is-costing-you-connection-jason-vanruler","audio_url":"https://pdst.fm/e/dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/pscrb.fm/rss/p/clrtpod.com/m/mgln.ai/e/35/traffic.libsyn.com/secure/typology/S09-048_Jason_Vanruler_with_ads_1.mp3?dest-id=528815","summary":"What if the reason your closest relationships feel stuck isn't about how much you care — but about how differently you and the people you love communicate? Today, I sit down with Jason VanRuler, therapist, Enneagram Two, and author of Discovering Your Communication Type: The 5 Paths to Deeper Connection and Stronger Relationships , as he introduces us to his P.A.T.H.S. framework — five communication styles he identified through years of working with couples navigating betrayal, teams in conflict, and individuals trying to understand why the same words land so differently depending on who's in the room. Those five types: the Peacemaker, the Advocate, the Thinker, the Harbor, and the Spark. The nine Enneagram types map fascinatingly onto these five communication styles, and we walk through each type together. We talk about blind spots (every communication style has one), what happens to our style under stress and in conflict, and why the most generous thing you can do in any relationship is learn to speak your people's language rather than demanding they speak yours. Jason also shares honestly from his own marriage — he's a Harbor married to a Thinker — and what changed when he learned to stop reading his wife's precision questions as opposition and started hearing them as her version of love. Whether you're an Enneagram enthusiast, a couples therapist, a team leader, or just someone who's tired of feeling unseen in conversations, this episode is for you.","meta_description":"What if the reason your closest relationships feel stuck isn't about how much you care — but about how differently you and the people you love communicate…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2766,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/typology-57896/episodes/the-way-you-communicate-is-costing-you-connection-jason-vanruler/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/typology-57896/the-way-you-communicate-is-costing-you-connection-jason-vanruler.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}