{"podcast":{"title":"Three Percent","slug":"three-percent-7209360","podcast_index_feed_id":7209360,"rss_url":"https://feeds.megaphone.fm/AMPH4526507048","website_url":"https://www.threepercentco.com","image_url":"https://megaphone.imgix.net/podcasts/d737ed50-63c0-11f1-b1d5-77a66e7ba8d1/image/7428685d6dcc79a5797711057e17a2d8.jpg?ixlib=rails-4.3.1&max-w=3000&max-h=3000&fit=crop&auto=format,compress","author":"Jamie & Blake","episode_count":56,"summary":"Welcome to Three Percent. This is your space if you’re on a journey of pursuing holistic masculinity, growing your emotional awareness, and cultivating deeper relationships and an authentic faith. We’re here to provide evidence-based guidance and proven strategies drawn from our experiences as therapists, friends, and mentors. We aren’t here to give you gimmicks or superficial “hacks.” We’re not telling you who to be, we're helping you uncover what gets in the way of being the man you want to be and offering you the authentic tools needed for tangible growth.","last_synced_at":"2026-06-15T16:20:13.195845+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/three-percent-7209360"},"episode":{"title":"What To Do With Your Inner Critic with Aundi Kolber","slug":"what-to-do-with-your-inner-critic-with-aundi-kolber","published_at":"2025-11-17T07:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/three-percent-7209360/what-to-do-with-your-inner-critic-with-aundi-kolber","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/three-percent-7209360","url":"https://traffic.megaphone.fm/AMPH2591104815.mp3","audio_url":"https://traffic.megaphone.fm/AMPH2591104815.mp3","summary":"This week, Blake and Jamie sit down with bestselling author and therapist Aundi Kolber for a powerful conversation about trauma, compassion, the inner critic, and learning to “try softer.” Aundi shares openly about growing up in an abusive home, how her fierce inner critic helped her survive, and why healing doesn’t come through trying harder—but through a compassionate, regulated relationship with ourselves and others. They unpack attachment, window of tolerance, neurobiology, and why men especially struggle to let go of performance and self-hatred. This is an episode about shifting from survival mode to connection. About befriending the parts of us we’ve pushed away. And about discovering that compassion is not weakness—it’s strength that doesn’t fold. Takeaways Your inner critic was born for a reason—it helped you survive. Healing happens when we can be with our pain, not in our pain. Compassion is both tender and fierce: soft toward wounds, strong toward safety. Our window of tolerance expands in the presence of regulated, safe relationships. You don’t have to tell everyone everything—honesty requires discernment and safety. Trying Softer is not giving up; it’s choosing connection over self-punishment. We can reassign our inner critic’s job—from attacking us to discerning what’s good for us. Chapters (00:00) Aundi’s Story & Meeting the Inner Critic(04:00) Growing Up in Abuse: The Origin of Hyper-Vigilance(08:00) Trauma, Sensitivity & Why Our Parts Form(12:00) Reframing the Inner Critic: A Protector, Not an Enemy(15:00) Attachment, Performance & Getting Needs Met(18:00) How the Body Shrinks its Window of Tolerance(21:00) What Regulation Really Means(24:00) Why Safe Relationships Expand Our Capacity(27:00) Vulnerability, Men’s Groups & Discernment(30:00) Numbing, Shu…","meta_description":"This week, Blake and Jamie sit down with bestselling author and therapist Aundi Kolber for a powerful conversation about trauma, compassion, the inner cri…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3929,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/three-percent-7209360/episodes/what-to-do-with-your-inner-critic-with-aundi-kolber/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/three-percent-7209360/what-to-do-with-your-inner-critic-with-aundi-kolber.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}